My family spent Spring Break in Phuket Thailand. We were sitting in the lounge of our resort during my beloved Happy Hour. Our server delivered our drinks and looked at our family and said, “Three boys Mam, you must be busy. ” She placed the last of the drinks on the table and questioned “You don’t want a girl?”‘ I responded with my pat polite answer, “Oh yes, 3 boys, and no I am happy with my guys and life is very full.”
I have other comments I say depending on the rudeness factor of the person asking the question. This particular lady was kind and had even commented the previous day about the kids being well behaved, she also added for good measure, especially for American kids?! Anyway, I felt obliged to give the kind response, plus she was in charge of the wine delivery. I certainly didn’t want to make her angry!
As I sipped my complimentary house wine, I realized something. The five of us have traveled together to several states and now several countries and although the levels of English proficiency and dialects might change we receive the same comment over and over again.
No matter where we go strangers feel the need to make conversation about our same sex children all hovering around the same age. There seems to be some sort of fascination, or compulsion to comment.
Before I got pregnant for the first time, I’ll admit I did want a girl. But as the cliche goes, once I found out I was pregnant my only desire was to have a healthy baby. Plus the moment I saw my oldest’s face minutes after he was born I happily submerged myself in dump trucks and lego Bricks and never looked back. At this point, I hope for lovely daughter in-laws.
-In my experience with 3 school aged boys I will receive one or more of these communications daily:
1. A call or email from the teacher, letting me know as a gentle reminder that something has been forgotten, lost or the children are failing to complete something. I have received emails noting my sons’ greatness as well!
2. A notice from the school lunch card system letting me know they are low on money AGAIN
3. A call from the nurse for varying degrees of injury or illness
4. An email from a room parent requesting an item or volunteers
5. An email notifying me that one or all of my sons have signed up for a new optional school project to be done at home!
6. An email from a coach about a change of schedule including an added practice
7. An invitation to a party or playdate (which requires gift and or taxis)
8. An email or call from the Principal,letting me know about an “incident”
*This lovely one occurred today along with #2, 4, & 6 and it is not yet noon!
*What are the questions you get asked over and over by strangers?

