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No Matter Where We Travel We Hear the Same Thing

Photo from Mar 26, 2014-2

My family spent Spring Break in Phuket Thailand. We were sitting in the lounge of our resort during my beloved Happy Hour. Our server delivered our drinks and looked at our family and said, “Three boys Mam, you must be busy. ” She placed the last of the drinks on the table and questioned “You don’t want a girl?”‘ I responded with my pat polite answer, “Oh yes, 3 boys, and no I  am happy with my guys and life is very full.”

I have other comments I say depending on the rudeness factor of the person asking the question. This particular lady was kind and had even commented the previous day about the kids being well behaved, she also added for good measure, especially for American kids?! Anyway, I felt obliged to give the kind response, plus she was in charge of the wine delivery. I certainly didn’t want to make her angry!

As I sipped my complimentary house wine, I realized something. The five of us have traveled together to several states and now several countries and although the levels of English proficiency and dialects might change we receive the same comment over and over again.

No matter where we go strangers feel the need to make conversation about our same sex children all hovering around the same age. There seems to be some sort of fascination, or compulsion to comment.

Before I got pregnant for the first time, I’ll admit I did want a girl. But as the cliche goes, once  I found out I was pregnant my only desire was to have a healthy baby. Plus the  moment I saw my oldest’s face minutes after he was born I happily submerged myself in dump trucks and lego Bricks and never looked back. At this point, I hope for lovely daughter in-laws.

-In my experience with 3 school aged boys I will receive one or more of these communications daily:

1. A call or email from the teacher, letting me know as a gentle reminder that something has been forgotten, lost or the children are failing to complete something. I have received emails noting my sons’ greatness as well!

2. A notice from the school lunch card system letting me know they are low on money AGAIN

3. A call from the nurse for varying degrees of injury or illness

4. An email from a room parent requesting an item or volunteers

5. An email notifying me that one or all of my sons have signed up for a new optional school project to be done at home!

6. An email from a coach about a change of schedule including an added practice

7. An invitation to a party or playdate (which requires gift and or taxis)

8. An email or call from the Principal,letting me know about an “incident”

*This lovely one occurred today along with #2, 4, & 6 and it is not yet noon!

*What are the questions you get asked over and over by strangers?

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We’re on Holiday! Our 1st Trip Back to the U.S.

Headed Back to Singapore Atlanta International Airport Christmas 2014

Waiting for the 9 bags to be checked-in

The title of this post is just to prove how “International” I am. (I’m paying homage to those American posers who go to Europe for 10 days and return referring to the elevator as “the Lift”). 

-In late December, we planned to return home to the U.S.  for the first time since moving to Singapore 9 months ago. Once the plane tickets were booked, I began to fret about the trip. My worries seemed based in reality. After all, we were technically homeless.  We rented our house when we moved. The vision of 3 energetic boys and 2 large adults living in hotels and imposing on family and friends for shelter for 3 weeks was beyond my comfort zone. By far the most anxiety provoking piece was how my children would react to being back home in Atlanta and then leaving a few weeks later. I had already been through the homesick struggles when we moved and had no desire to return to them.

-We packed 7 suitcases and got in a Maxi Taxi at 3:30 AM and headed to the airport and embarked on our 23 hour journey. No, we did not walk; Singapore is just really far from home. My children do not mind the trip, they have complete control of the in-flight entertainment system and feel compelled to order soda every time the flight attendants walk up the aisle. Lest we forget their love of the Delta Sky lounge; Comfy chairs, Snacks, more soda and electrical outlets to plug in their I-Pads.

-The parents, well I sleep a lot, enjoyed cheap wine and completed several  easy large print crosswords. My husband attempts to sleep but ends up watching countless movies while simultaneously glaring at me while I peacefully snooze next to him.

What we did on vacation:

*Hung out with our closest friends

*Spent time with family

*Ate a ton of pizza and Mexican food (oh how I miss my shrimp tacos)

*Sundays at our church

*Took care of rental house and other necessary business (many days of this)

*I drove a car for the first time in many months

*Both Dwayne and I ended up sick and going to the doctor.

*Made a surprise visit to the boy’s school to see teachers and friends

What we learned going home:

*We are blessed by wonderful people who opened their home to us carte blanche. Their acts of love and kindness will stay with me always.

*Family is great but sometimes people who are not related by blood turn out to be family.

*Unfortunately, people we thought would move heaven and earth to make time for us did not. It’s ok really it is..sniff sniff…but it opens your eyes.

*Appreciation for our church.

*Eating and drinking non-stop for 3 weeks will add inches to your waist.

*Shopping is a necessity. I am not a shopper but I constantly shopped for items to bring back to SG. I also found myself at the grocery store for pleasure. Oh how I miss Publix!

*I missed Singapore and it went beyond the warm weather.

*MY kids are resilient.

-We returned to Singapore with two extra suitcases and my sister Lora in tow for a visit!! (Serious bonus)

-My anxiety about the trip turned out to be unnecessary, as worry often is.  We basically stayed at 3 family’s homes while in town. Our friends and family were un-phased with the changes in their routines, messy guest bedrooms, and additional laundry, food and water bills. All of this was taken in stride and returned with loving hospitality. We are fortunate.

My boys visited their school and their old neighborhood. A few tears were shed as we said goodbye.

After marathon plane rides back to Asia, We opened the door to our condo In Singapore. My oldest ran to his bedroom and said “I’m finally home, it was a long flight but it was worth it to get back to Singapore.”The younger two echoed similar sentiments, and ran to their rooms to play the with the Lego bricks which had been discarded for a few weeks. I could hear them planning the next day’s adventures which included playing cricket with their friends and taking their Aunt Lora to the pool.

All was good except for the unpacking.